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https://bit.ly/3AxjaEe https://bit.ly/32yUA9D https://bit.ly/3g1auwo https://bit.ly/3nZ5YCY https://bit.ly/3IC7dA7 https://bit.ly/3r1kf40 https://bit.ly/3qYKp7E https://bit.ly/3G8cm0V https://bit.ly/3g1m4rE https://bit.ly/3rQWAmi https://bit.ly/33NTwiS https://bit.ly/3rQDjkM https://bit.ly/3fWVC2b https://bit.ly/3KLg18D https://bit.ly/3g0PC8I https://bit.ly/35qwHlH https://bit.ly/3IFzVQq human has the right to choose whatever is right for you. by Jodima on 2005 May 2 - 22:10 | reply to this comment Complaining about boyfriends She'll probably keep complaining about her boyfriends until she meets the one for her. This really has no bearing on whether she prefers an equal relationship. When she meets the right guy she'll be happy. Until then it honestly does feel like the world is full of losers and jerks. (Men feel this way too). Take it from me, I dated for a long time after college and didn't meet my husband until I was 31. I met a few nice men but I met an awful lot of guys who were, to say the least, a disappointment. I always treated them with respect until they let me down. Then they got the benefit of my opinion of their behavior. Having an equal relationship does not equate to treating your husband or S/O like an "unwanted naughty puppy." It seems as if you and a lot of others make that assumption. Personally I find it ill-informed and condescending. It's no more true than the statement that in every Taken In Hand relationship there is an overbearing, controlling creep of a man. "Pat" by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 May 3 - 19:04 | reply to this comment Re: complaining about boyfriends A good bit of food for thought and thanks, Pat. I certainly didn't mean to imply that other relationships aren't happy. My parents were blissfully married for 40 years until my dad passed away last year, and afaik there was no "taken in hand" involved. More what I was getting at was that this is what feels right for me. As to my friend complaining about her boyfriends, well you'd have to have been there. Most of her complaints involved not bad behavior on the part of the boyfriend, but on the part of her. Of course, this was a very specific example and not meant to be generalized to everyone. I know many couples are very happy in other relationship styles. But hey.. we're all different, which is what makes it great to be human, right? by Jodima on 2005 May 4 - 02:02 | reply to this comment Differential Conduct "As I mentioned in the readers forum, my husband and I have developed as a couple without ever discussing it. We naturally relate to one another in a Taken In Hand sort of way. My reading on this site is an attempt to clarify and define our relationship, mainly for my own peace of mind. My husband has no desire for rules or labels. It will be interesting to discover if the posts on this site interest him as they do me." - ameribritwife So much of your post resonates within me. We do not behave differently in public than in private. Our relationship is like yours, partially quoted above. However, with us, it is just the way we relate. I can't even say 'relate best'. So sometimes words and even erotic gestures surface unintentionally around other people.
