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https://bit.ly/3ISIdo9 https://bit.ly/3ulUwp4 https://bit.ly/35zNmDj https://bit.ly/347qj2o https://bit.ly/3KX52sZ https://bit.ly/3sbuhii https://bit.ly/3oicS6x https://bit.ly/3GhjacH https://bit.ly/3uhR4vD It's easy for me to say that it isn't what you "need" because our needs as human beings, without which we won't survive, are food, clothing and shelter, and love. (Babies who do not receive love do not make it). Beyond that to say we need a particular thing or part of a relationship isn't true. It is what we want, and we may want it so strongly that it feels like a need, but it isn't. That doesn't mean you have to give it up, but it just draws a line. We need food: we want to eat out in a fancy restaurant. We need clothes: we want to wear the latest designer creations. We need shelter: we want a gorgeous house with all the modern amenities. It's what you want, and it's fine to want it. "Pat" by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 Mar 23 - 20:57 | reply to this comment Re: Needs vs. Wants I disagree with you Pat. Tevemer needs that kind of relationship with her husband. She might not need it to survive, but she needs it for her own happyness. You wrote: Babies who do not recieve love do not make it. It is a certain kind of love that babies need, the love of the parents. That is not the same kind of love a woman needs. We all need a certain kind of love and for all of us it is different. If I wouldn`t have that certain kind of love my husband gives me I surely would survive, but emotionally it would take a long time for me to get used to it. I won`t say it would destroy me but it would definatley depress me and I would be totally unhappy. So I believe: Yes, I need that certain kind of relationship with him. Autumn by Autumn on 2005 Mar 24 - 09:10 | reply to this comment It is love Pat, My husband's loving guidance in our relationship is part of his love for me. The same as sex is part of our love. I am not sure how you can determine what I need in as part of love and what I do not. You are not me. The Taken in Hand part of our relationship is part of our loving relationship. I need it as much as I need, hugs, holding, sex, kissing, snuggling. You are right I do need love to be an emotionally healthy person. Having a dominant man take me in hand is all part of the love I need. So as I said, for our healthy, happy loving relationship being taken in hand is something we need. Take care,
